Wednesday, October 12, 2011

Those were the days - being told to "get a life" was "oh so common"

I am down with a cold today, and have a little "fogginess". This blog had been "abandoned" for a while - it has been very painful to revisit the difficult times, and be totally surprised not only by what I had written, but how the posts were written. I have been shocked so many times by the grammar, spelling errors and places where I seemed to have skipped words in a sentence - all due to my "fibrofogs".  I revisited the posts today, as a little reminder of how good things are, and what strategies I should use to cope with it, just in case the fog lingers.  

One of my posts surprised me with its "feisty- ness" :).  It was my response to a well meaning comment to my post about coping with fibrofogs - someone basically told me it is "all in the mind" and "get a life". Boy, I was strangely eloquent despite all the grammatical errors, spelling mistakes, and some strange sentence structures!
I really appreciate the long comments...showed that someone had cared enough to say something with the intention of helping me, helping me to clear those fogs.
However, I must disagree with some of the comments, and clear the misconceptions about fibrofog.
Now, it is not all in your mind (I wish it was). Positive thoughts help you to cope, and is necessary to keep you same, but it will not clear those fogs. 
Style my lifestyle?? I am no sit at home moaning about my life kind of person! Of course, you might think so, looking at the amount of posts I have done in certain periods! Those were the days that even when I was totally "dead", and had to stay at home, I still drag myself out of bed, to write, to document my life, to communicate! Yes, it is true. There were many times I do succumb to depression, but I always proactively try to identify it early, do what I can to avoid it and get out of it! BTW, depression is not something that you could just snap out of it! 
Do you know how many times I had to "proof read" a post, and spell check sometimes?? Any idea? Any idea what it is like to write half way, and then forgot what you were writing? No offense to others with the condition, but I have no learning disability! I am not boasting here, but just to let you know what it is like---I have held many scholarships for my academic achievements, and yet...
This is a medical condition, which affects you physically and mentally, regardless of who you are, what you have been (or are) doing, or how optimistic, purposeful your life have been! You get what I mean??
"When did you last visit a cemetery, a youth organization and volunteer to help, offer to help meals-on-wheels or any number of organizations and venues where your 'ailments' would be but imaginary vis-a-vis those of the ones you serve!"
Volunteer? Gosh, I have been an active volunteer for years!! Old folks home, charity shop, orphanage! Does that stop me from having a fog?? Does that stop me from having fibromyalgia??
If my thoughts or rather my will, is not stronger than steel, I would have collapse long long time ago!!!

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